You will keep resisting the things you secretly want, and never get to experience them, until you stop making your desires mean something bad about you.
In this episode of ONE | Shift, Mandi Lynne explains how unmet needs shape our desires, and why some desires, whether for money, a sports car, or a creative dream, feel too taboo to admit. Drawing on Maslow, psychologist Steven Reiss, and the core emotions ONE | Life focuses on, she shows that desires can be needs, wants, or both, and that a desire in your heart is there for a reason. Mandi walks through a simple T-chart to list the negative and positive associations tied to a desire, shows how those associations point to your values, and shares a coin-flip trick to keep your focus on the positive side.
She also explains why other people's projections are really about their own self-rejection, and why desire is the energy behind your purpose and passion.
You'll learn:
Why desires are not selfish and what they reveal about your values, passion, and purpose
How to use a T-chart to find the meaning behind a desire you feel guilty about
How to tell whether your wounded self or your higher self is driving a desire
Why resisting a desire keeps you from ever experiencing it
Key Insight: "If we ever want to have what we desire, we have to allow ourselves the permission to even just have the desire in the first place." Because you will never pursue what you're resisting.
This is your call to loosen the guilt, keep the desire, and let it point you toward the life you're longing for.
Discover your first shift at mandilynne.com This episode is Week 7 of the free, 16-week School of Self, the first week of the SELF-Focused phase — join us inside The Commons to go through it live.