You will keep chasing who you hope to become, and keep your self-esteem low, until you close the gap between how you see yourself and who you already are.
In this episode of ONE | Shift, Mandi Lynne explains Carl Rogers' self-concept theory in plain language. Your self-image is how you see yourself right now, and your ideal self is who you aspire to be or already know you are. The farther apart they are, the lower your self-esteem. The closer they are, the higher your self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth. She shows why the culture of "becoming" keeps us chasing, how the lowercase self and the capital SELF take turns driving the ship, and how acceptance and commitment therapy's self as content versus self as context helps you stop becoming the storm and start being the eye of it.
Plus, what the word "believe" originally meant and how to choose the beliefs you hold dear.
You'll learn:
What Carl Rogers' self-concept theory is and how the gap between self-image and ideal self shapes self-esteem
Why "becoming" language can keep you chasing instead of owning who you already are
The difference between the lowercase self and the capital Self, and which one is driving
How to build self-belief by choosing the beliefs you hold dear
Key Insight: "But even under those patterns and without it, you are still you. You are actually still the person that is the higher self, the ideal self."
Because once you see the person you've been aiming at is already in you, the work shifts from chasing to unlearning. This is your call to close the gap by acting as the person you already are.
Discover your first shift at mandilynne.com
This episode is Week 6 of the free, 16-week School of Self, the final week of the SELF-Centered phase — join us inside The Commons to go through it live.
Content note: This episode includes a brief mention of childhood sexual abuse and infidelity. Resources: If you or someone you know has experienced sexual abuse, support is available:
National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE (4673), 24/7, or chat at online.rainn.org
Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline (for survivors of any age): 1-800-422-4453
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988